Senior Men And Senior Women - Beware Of The Trap
Author: Heinz Golz
Senior Men and senior women see affairs from dissimilar points of view.
For a senior man, a stable relationship is an chance to settle down into a calm and quiet living even though not necessarily marriage but more of getting out from the rat race of looking for a date and someone to share his life with. Senior men are more comfortable when their relationship is not a roller coaster journey.
On the other hand, senior women relates to relationship as a threat because of the possibility of getting hurt in the relationship between her and her boyfriend. Right off, senior women get ready themselves for a turbulent and rough ride as it makes them sense more alive.
Senior men and senior women are on two unsimilar timetables with respect to relationships. The Big Trap that I am referring to is that you are in a hurry to get into a steady relationship and out of the dating cycle for the wrong reasons. This trap presents itself most often to the guys that date infrequently or tend to monogamous conduct. (senior women are subject to this trap, also.) Those that are relaxed playing the field and dating many senior women , as I preach to you to do , do not suffer from this syndrome.
You want to get away of the wild instability of the dating scene , so that you can start one senior woman in your life. There are many reasons senior men slide into instant monogamy roles, and an wrong understanding of female expectations is one of them. Another reason senior men move too fast is that guys do not like the doubt and having to wonder every day if they are going to get any love. If they really understood how much opportunity there is out there in the singles world, they would not be in such a rush to lock in their possibilities.
Here is what takes place when you fall into the trap: your mind is conditioned to consistency. As you date, you find yourself excited by meeting new senior women, but with a missing of understanding, your misses are much more frequent than your hits. This leads to discouragement. You start really doubting yourself, and your self esteem takes a hit. Then you feel more negative about the whole process. You stop being able to improve your technique because all you see is failures. You swear off dating for a while, often with a hidden animosity toward a senior women. After all, the singles scene is vicious , is not it ?
Or, you date for a short while, and you settle for someone who does not delight you, but at least is not absent. Over time, your discontent grows subconsciously as you understand that you have settled for less than you desire or deserve . She gets needy and sticky, and you pull further and further away.
This is another of those downward spirals, and it usually runs in cycles. You go through the cycle, and try again, almost always with a state of mind of I can not wait to get out of this scene. This attitude sabotages you, since you are programming yourself with a need to stay away from the very course that will advance your skills and ensure the widest collection of possible mates. And it may not come from a real desire to be in a relationship but rather a wish to not be in the dating scene.
Only with this attitude , you will you ensure that you do not fall into this trap. You have got to have such a pressing life that a senior woman is a fine adding, not the single pitiful reason for your life. The way to promote this approach is to know your situation (get knowledge), do enough of the correct things based on this knowledge (take action), and experience success. You need to reward your nervous system for getting to know these new habits, and you will be the senior man you always wanted to be.
About the author: The author is the owner of Senior Friend Finder web site. He is retired and enjoyes writing articles. In His website http://www.the-senior-friend-finder.com , you can find many ideas for the single Senior person.
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